Doctors told my husband that he could never have children. Yesterday, I found out that I’m pregnant, and I’m afraid to tell him this news.

On our first date, she told me that she has a son, but it didn’t discourage me at all because he has a living father who pays child support, and with her, I could have a second child.
It seemed like she understood me at first, and her parents supported me, but when we moved in together, everything changed abruptly… We had serious relationships, and since we started thinking about getting married, we decided to live together first to see if we would be comfortable together.
Besides, I love her very much, so I want to be closer to be her main support in life. We have ideal relationships; we understand each other in everything and find compromises, but there was one “but.” She wanted me to literally become the real father for her son. Still, at the early stage of our relationship, I informed her that I would do everything to make her child comfortable with me, and I would be involved in his upbringing, but we couldn’t be that close as if we were our own family. Let’s say it’s morning; my wife and I are lying in each other’s arms, chatting quietly about something, and it seems like life is beautiful.
But at that moment, her child bursts into the room and starts misbehaving. I try not to show my nervousness in this situation and just go to make coffee for us. I don’t understand, can’t she explain to her son that he needs to knock before entering, and when I try to discipline her son, she asks me not to interfere with him? Or will I always be in second place for her? In the last month, both passion and desire vanished, all because she is completely occupied with her son, and she doesn’t even want to have dinner with me to talk about how our day went.
She insists that I must accept the boy as my own son, and I can’t understand why she can’t find time to pay attention to both of us. Will I always stand in the shadow of her son and adjust? Will I wait all my life? This isn’t the life I dreamed of!