My mother is currently at the sea with her daughter! – shares Alla, 35. – Yesterday, I called and asked which website was easier to book tickets on. I said we’ve already bought everything; the return is on the 15th. And she replied that she wanted to come to the same place in the fall. She doesn’t like the south in the summer, but in the fall, it’s the velvet season. The visit is cheaper, and there aren’t many people… I was shocked! This is her third time in a year. Isn’t she tired? She says that when she goes to the sea with her grandchildren, she gets more tired than at work!
Alla has an average family – a husband and a nine-year-old daughter. When Alla returned from maternity leave, her daughter was not yet two years old. After all, they took out a mortgage; they had to pay. And the mother stayed with the child. She wasn’t retired yet. So Alla and her husband gave that money to their mother so that she could live comfortably.
After the mother retired, the daughter stopped giving her money. But Anna Vasilievna continued to take care of her granddaughter. The granddaughter relied entirely on her grandmother until her parents returned from work. She fed her, took her for walks, and cared for her.
When the granddaughter started first grade, there was nothing without her grandmother. Allah sighs. Firstly, children go to school for only two hours. What about holidays? Where to find a babysitter who would spend so much time with a child? It’s better not to work at all and stay at home. Thank God, you can rely on grandma.
“We try to help our mother, of course,” adds Alla. “We pay utility bills, we applied for a grant. We give money for dental repairs, buy small things. Once a year, we give money for a trip to the sea. Of course, she travels with her granddaughter. All at our expense. And additional pocket money. And not for a week but for a few months. The pension for that period accumulates. So she’s lucky to have us!
…And this year, Anna Vasilievna went to the south right after graduating.
They live in a private sector; we wouldn’t have collected money for a hotel. Alla says. – All the time at the same hostess, she gives her discounts. She can cook herself. Especially since there are only two of them. They periodically visit the dining room. They go on rides, to shows, meet new people. And Nastya is not bored.
Alla sincerely believed that her mother was happy to travel and relax. And it turns out, she’s working there. So she got offended.
“Our daughter has a calm character, obeys her grandmother,” adds Alla. “She helps her grandmother with everything. They get along and communicate. And here, out of the blue…
If mom goes in the fall, what to do with Nastya? She won’t be able to go home alone. Plus, it’s vacation time – grandma won’t have time to come back.
I told her she couldn’t leave her granddaughter. – Alla is almost crying. – And she said three weeks would pass without her. Let it be like an extension. There are many children there. Watch TV at home during the holidays. There’s nothing wrong with that. Get used to being alone. She eats and plays by herself.
I could still understand if she were confined to the apartment because she had been to the sea almost all summer! Who else is so lucky?
Most often, Alla took money for her vacations to pay off the mortgage earlier, and now she’ll have to stay home with her daughter in the fall.
Or is grandma wrong? Does she realize that her granddaughter is small and it’s dangerous to leave her alone at home? My son-in-law and daughter work full-time. And they have no way out. And all the spots on the extension are calculated. Everything is pre-registered. Although grandma owes nothing to anyone, she knows how to drop everything on her daughter.
Do you really need to go to the sea in the fall if you’ve been there all summer? You can also be patient. Or another option – she is an adult and can do what she wants. Others raise their children alone.
